I recently enjoyed a walk down memory lane, when I attended my 40th high school class reunion. It was great to visit with old friends; many of whom I hadn't seen in thirty years. We talked about our school day memories, our families and what had transpired in our lives.
I found it interesting and thought provoking to reflect on that period of my life; a time that I had enjoyed immensely, wishing it could have lasted just a little while longer.
Thinking back to that time so long ago, the school atmosphere provided the perfect setting for the forming and cultivating of friendships. Through classes, sports and activities we were constantly around others; a target rich environment for developing friendships.
True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it is lost. ~ Charles Caleb Cotton
Research shows that friendship is necessary to not only your emotional health, but also to your physical well-being. Having strong relationships will lengthen your life, boost immunity and reduce the risk of depression.
I have come to realize that we have become far too busy when we have no time left to seek and nurture true friendships…
If you aspire to a life of total health and wellness, you will need to commit time to making friends. Solid friendships require a time investment as well a mutual commitment to the relationship. As a bonus for your efforts, you will be paving the way for a lasting friendship that will enrich and enhance the quality of your life.
A friend is a gift you give yourself ~ Stevenson
Some basic guidelines to follow on your quest to find a friend:
Ø Listen – It seems, that as women age, they tend to talk more and listen less. Hone up on your listening skills, paying close attention to what the other person is trying to say.
Ø Be Yourself – Have you ever been around someone that was so busy trying to impress you that you couldn’t even figure out who they really were? No one likes a fake; they want the real you. Be genuine.
Ø Ask Questions – Every woman loves to talk about her family and also about what she’s passionate about. Be inquisitive and make mental notes to remember for your next conversation. If you remember nothing else, remember her name!
Ø Smile, Be Nice & Make a Good First Impression. No one wants to be around a grump. You want them to remember your smiling face and happy attitude. Say nice things and be sincere.
Ø Get Involved – What are your interests? Find a group, an activity, a class where you will meet like-minded people. The more exposure to people you have, the more likely you are to find a friend.
Ø Trust Takes Time – Don’t tell your life story the first time you encounter your prospective new friend. Trust is established over time as the relationship solidifies.
Finally, and most importantly, be the friend you desire to have. Make a call, send an email, go for coffee, remember a birthday, give a compliment, have lunch, send a party invite or offer a helping hand. You'll soon find that you are well on your way to establishing lasting and rewarding friendships that you will cherish for a lifetime.
May God bless you on your journey,